Most of us are guilty of being to hard on ourselves at one point or another. Unfortunately, negative self-talk is more often a habit than just an occasional occurrence, especially in the world of social media where your every move is up for scrutiny.
Ridding yourself of those negative thoughts, or at least choosing not to listen to them, is a vital component of self-acceptance. It may not be easy, but that doesn’t mean it’s not achievable. Focus on mastering one step at a time and before you know it, positive thinking will come naturally!
1) Recognize when your self-talk becomes negative.
You can’t work to change something about yourself or anything else if you can’t first identify it. When you’ve become ingrained with a negative outlook toward yourself, it’s easy to become oblivious to the symptoms.
Try writing down your negative thoughts for a few weeks and see if you can recognize any patterns or triggers you may be able to change.
2) Take a moment to look at negative thoughts objectively.
Most of the time, the negative things we tell ourselves aren’t even true! After you’ve learned how to recognize negative self-talk, slow down and take a second to evaluate that thought. Is there any evidence that it’s true? Do you really never follow through? Or always fail? Probably not.
When you look at negative assumptions objectively, you take away their power.
3) Start with small changes.
Rome wasn’t built in a day, right? Neither is a positive mindset. Retraining your mind to see things differently is a slow process, and you’re going to have to be persistent.
Try reframing a situation by addressing yourself as you would speak to another person. “It took you so long to learn that new application at work. You’re so stupid, they should just fire you.” Would you talk to a coworker or a friend that way? You deserve the same forgiveness and understanding you give to others.
4) Turn those negatives into full-on positives.
Your final job when it comes to defeating negative self-talk is to transform it into productive thinking. Pull something good from a negative thought to put a positive spin on it!
“I’m such a failure”, becomes, “I made a mistake, but now I’ve learned better.” Slowly, you’ll be able to train yourself to default to this positive perspective.
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